If you have a loud inner-critic and feelings of self-hate, there is hope.
I am well practiced in self-criticism, self-sabotage and inner torment. After I learned it doesn't have to be that way and the power of self-compassion, I found freedom and peace relatively quickly
Who is harmed when you are kind to yourself?
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As I write this... I am feeling: Peace. Freedom. Calm.
These feelings have overcome me as I trust myself and lean on self-compassion.
One of the most important ingredients? Community who cares. You, here. I feel your comments, your presence, your support, with deep gratitude in my heart, soul, and once very troubled mind that has newfound relief and optimism.
I have made many leaps in my life. While I have felt deeply alone at times, I reflect on the rocks who were there for me in each step- different people who showed up as I took steps to new opportunities and some who have been there since the beginning. My ability to receive help and believe in the confidence and hope from others has been clouded at times by my own internal self-critic which contributed to a loneliness that inflated my sense of unworthiness. When our brains are exhausted and low in mood, our thoughts are impacted and it's not the time to make big life decisions.
Over the past few months, I have experienced beautiful highs and deep lows... the full spectrum of emotions. I have been filled with hope and overwhelmed by hopelessness at times. I have confidently trusted myself and spiraled with doubts at times. That's what the human experience feels like - highs, lows, and everything in between.
Our lives are not linear. Our moods not meant to be stable. Yet, we judge ourselves for being exactly as nature created us to be.
Our societal construct that promotes individualism and normalizes oppression and false claims about what brings us peace and happiness salts the wounds.
We are meant to be in community, supporting one another as we journey through life. If you have developed a belief that you are not enough and feel the pain of self-hate in your heart, I am here to walk with you on the journey to creating a life grounded on self-compassion. It is not easy to sit with what comes up, but I trust that it'll be worth it.
Much love,
Jillian
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